Self Discipline is how effective you are at making yourself do the things you want to do.
It’s a critical skill and it forges the path between where you are and where you want to be.
But how do you make this skill strong?
Do you ever get frustrated because you can’t ever get yourself to achieve the things you want to achieve? Today we’re going to talk about 3 ways to superpower your self discipline to bring more meaning into your life.
1: A Strong Sense of Self Worth Leads to Strong Self Discipline
Self Worth is a combination of two ideas:
Do you believe yourself when you make promises to yourself?
if you make a mistake are you able to forgive yourself?
If you do these two things, you love yourself. Over time, you try to do things and you achieve them. If you do them successfully, you start to have strong faith in yourself and your skills. The more small wins you have, the stronger this ability grows quickly. But what if you experience more failure than success?
IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOUR REACTION TO IT!
If you believe the failure is a part of who you are, you will start to cultivate a sense of unworthiness. You will start to believe that you don’t have the requisite self discipline to achieve your goals.
If instead you believe that failure is simply a part of learning and that true self-discipline believes in responding to failure as a friend:
What can I learn from this?
How can I avoid failing next time?
Over time, if you consistently do as you say you will and respond to failure positively, you will slowly grow a strong sense of self-worth.
2: A strong sense of who you want to be
Having a clear vision of who you want to become makes having self-discipline much easier.
When I decided to become an analyst, I had a vision of an Ed that had strong integrity, always got the answers people were looking for, and knew all kinds of things to help people out.
Having this vision of myself helped me push myself when I wasn’t feeling like it. My band director always called them 4th quarter drills: they are the things you do to keep you going when you’re at the end of the game and your calves hurt like hell.
Write it down!
If you always know who you want to be, it’s an incredibly helpful thing to have in your moments of darkness.
It’s the different between saying, “To Hell With It!” and eating 4 lbs of turkey or staying true to your diet. It’s the difference between giving up when you’re tired and pushing through to the big win. It’s the difference between self-discipline made of iron and self discipline made of candle wax that will melt in front of adversity.
3: A clear vision of what you want to accomplish and a plan to get there
If you know what you want, this is half the battle. But what is the BEST way to get there? If we use a little science, we can super power our self discipline. Here are the things we know:
- People perform way better on small, mini goals than large monumental goals with no steps. (link)
- Celebrating wins acts as fuel for moving forward and will keep you motivated. It’s called dopamine, folks, and your brain loves it!
- If you can imagine yourself succeeding at your goal, you will have a higher likelihood to succeed. (link)
It’s based on these 3 ideas that I always recommend knowing what the next step is going to be. If you always know the next little thing to do, then you always have clarity of action. If you don’t get discouraged by failure, and you celebrate when you DO succeed you will create an incredible feedback loop of self-discipline. If you keep doing this, you will achieve your dreams: one step at a time.
And you will build strong self-discipline.
So get out there and chase after your dreams!